The Mom You Heard About on The News

The impact of sleep deprivation on mental health is real. In fact, in some cultures, sleep deprivation was a form of torture.

I know this because in one of my late lonely nights, I researched it. I needed something to affirm for me that the fact that I was losing my mind wasn't due to lack of will power (or some other virtue I didn't possess).

Turns out, nope, it was just 'lack of sleep' driving me mad.

So, not to be dark about it...but that mom you heard about on the late night news. You know the one I'm talking about, right?

Yep, I get it.

I mean, how are we expected to perform at anything - let alone keeping a human alive - when we are always operating in the red?

How are we meant to show up day and night with our best foot forward when "it takes a village" is gone. We have no nearby support. Our village has been dismantled.

Every mom is meant to be a PhD, an expert in child rearing, cooking and baking the perfect goodies...all with ease and grace---Pinterest-perfect all day, every day.

Not to mention, the sacred ancient traditions of postpartum care that cares for moms are dead.

We are all hungry for any type of nourishment, completely sleep deprived, and we haven't properly showered in lord knows how long.

These are the conditions that would drive anyone mad (yes, momma on the late night news, I get you).

The tantric tool for transformation here?

Mad grace.

Go easy on yourself, momma. Make peace with the chaos. Chaos is the name of the game here. We don't grow as mothers around it or despite it, but right fucking through it.

In case no one told you (cus who would? the village is dead): The feminine is all about surrender. Which means: motherhood is the living breathing practice of surrender.

We get to surrender again.

And then again.

And again.